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Stop Talking to Your EX

Stop allowing someone from your past to control your present!

In order to move on and receive greater love you must end with your past and set yourself FREE. We tend to hold on to the past as if it was a life vest. Unfortunately, we need to face the fact that the relationship has come to an end for a number of reasons. Even though there is one main cause leading you to the final ending, in reality there were many other small reasons why it collapsed. It’s never just one!

It doesn’t matter whose fault it was, nor does it matter who did the most damage. It’s DONE and now is time to grow, be strong, and BLOCK THEM! (Obviously if there are no kids involved, or other important life assets in the picture.)

If you have kids or other important business with that ex, you have to set boundaries. Maintaining a tight schedule and setting rules regarding when is appropriate to talk, is the first step. (During business hours perhaps, between 8:00am and 9:00pm.) Focus specifically on what matters the most, and keep it professional. Family is very important and keeping a good communication with your ex for the sake of your kids should be your number one priority. You must always remember, your state of mind and inner peace are priceless.

• Stop talking to your exes hoping they will change.

• Stop talking to your exes thinking it might work out next time.

• Stop talking to your exes because you deserve better.

• Stop talking to your exes because you must move on.

• Stop talking to your exes because your future awaits, and he or she might not like the fact you are still hung up with your past. 🤦🏻‍♀️

If you keep talking to your ex, keep spending time together and you believe you can still be best friends—you have unresolved issues and it’s time to get help…

Dating & Relationships

Speed Dating Tips

Tip #1

You’ve got to be well groomed; your appearance is the first perception that anyone has of you. Make sure you are dressed accordingly to the venue and climate of your city.

Tip #2

You don’t need to memorize anything but have a sense of what’s going on in the world around you. Skim the newspaper, watch the news, read some articles, etc. Having questions on the tip of your tongue are important for a first date to help avoid the awkward silence.

Tip #3

Choose topics of interest.

These topics can range from current events to an upcoming movie or concert. Avoid very negative news, politics and religion.

Tip #4

Make them laugh; they are definitely more likely to remember you when you make them laugh.

Laughter also makes her more relax and comfortable around you as laughing releases the feel good hormone.

Tip #5

Show confidence and try not to act nervous although this can be difficult to do especially if its your first time. You may be a little nervous at first but as the evening goes on, your nerves should calm.

Tip#6

Be positive and don’t bring up negative conversations i.e. the bad day you had today, your negative character traits, deep regrets you have about your past behavior that are no longer relevant to your life etc.

Tip#7

Don’t talk about your ex. The past is gone!! Focus in your present and your future. Talk about your dreams and goals.

Tip#8

Be yourself; don’t pretend to be someone you are not.

As long as you are yourself and not pretending to be someone you are not, with a little humor, a dose of sensitivity and a lot of confidence you’ll definitely go places.

Tip#9

If you fail, try and try again.

It sometimes takes a while to get back into the dating swing of things.

If you don’t try you will never succeed

Tip#10

Be Attentive and maintain eye contact with the person in front of you. The moment your eyes start wandering shows that you are not interested or bored with the conversation.

Make sure you follow these speed dating tips for great success!

Dating & Relationships Decisions Love

The Power of Saying NO!

Most of the time, the world itself is perceived as something negative. Individuals are afraid to say NO to people and circumstances that they don’t agree with. When you say NO, and align with your values and ideas, you empower yourself!

You have the right to say NO every time you disagree with a person or situation. Never ever compromise your ideas and beliefs just because you want to look cool or you don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings.

Saying NO requires practice.

The first time you say NO, you’ll question yourself and wonder over and over if you made the right move. Here is the funny part: If you really wanted to do something or agreed with someone you would’ve done it immediately without hesitation.

The more you align with your own values, the easier it will be to say NO. The guilt will go away and soon you’ll realize that you have the right to say NO!

Say NO to peer pressure.
Say NO to negative friends.
Say NO to your ex.
Say NO to settling with less than you deserve.
Say NO to manipulators.
Say NO to situations that compromise your values.

Dating & Relationships

No Room for Comfort…

Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow and achieve the meaningful relationships you want in your life. If you are tired of the same results or simply you are not happy with your current social and love life, it might be time to make a change.

Comfort Zone is:

“A place or situation where one feels at ease and without stress” (according to the Oxford dictionary)

You might be comfortable there, but not necessarily happy or content. Therefore a change should be made sooner rather than later. As many would say, and I find it to be so true, “Change is on the other side of fear.”

Here are a few tips that might help you with stepping out of your comfort zone:

• Be kind and friendly at gatherings and events—you never know who you could meet.

Talk to the new guy or girl at work, they might be great people to know. Welcoming newbies to social groups is the best way to meet people without pressure, and they will always be grateful of your kind gesture.

• Start conversations with strangers.

Practice, practice, practice… during the day we get several opportunities to talk to different people. Each day try saying hi to as many strangers as you can. Soon you’ll be able to establish new conversations and new friends.

• Ask questions.

When you are in a social setting, make an effort to ask lots of questions to guests, and listen to what others have to say. People love to share their ideas and plans.

• Try to attend events you normally wouldn’t go to. (You might learn a new skill, or a new hobby.)

Most of us only attend events we are very excited about, but guess what? You are missing out on so many things. Say YES to invitations you are not so much excited about––you never know who will you meet or what can happen!

• Smile!

Most people will warm up to you if you do. It shows confidence and approachability. If they don’t have one, give ‘em yours!! Yes, I know sometimes this is not easy, but remind yourself to smile more often, especially at social gatherings. People are naturally drawn to friendly faces.

• Be positive.

No one really likes negative people. Please refrain from complaining especially at social gatherings. You don’t want to be labeled as “difficult”.

• Join a club.

Associate with people who share your interests, either online or at a local community group. There are thousands of people in the same situation you are, and they are ready to make new friends. Volunteering is an amazing way to interact and meet others while helping the community.

• Be fun and spontaneous. Laugh and joke. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

Allow yourself to be a goof ball. People love to be around authentic individuals. If you take yourself too serious they will put their guard up and will be harder to let you in their circle.

Unfortunately most people live by old habits and change is not something they want to face very often. Some say it takes about 21 days to create a new habit. Try to incorporate small changes in your routine every week and soon you’ll find out how rewarding it could be to step out of your comfort zone…